Couples Counseling

I believe in a collaborative approach to relationships. I lean toward the Gottman approach in couples work.

Connection is a vital part of our lives. Regardless of the cliché stigmas that tell us to "work on ourselves before we can get into a relationship", I believe that the most growth is facilitated through our initmate relationships. I hope to assist couples in moving towards the development and maintenance of secure attachment and effective communication.

MYTH: All we need is better communication. TRUTH: Communication is important, but learning how to identify and attend to the deep wounds that drive conflict is the key to breaking toxic cycles and building healthy bonds. OUR WORK TOGETHER: You and your partner will enter a safe space where you will both learn powerful tools for diffusing destructive patterns and increasing vulnerability, empathy, and accountability—the requisites for strong, lasting, deeply satisfying partnership.

I have had specialized training working with infidelity/affairs, emotionally focused therapy, relational life therapy and Gottman Method. I continue to receive further training in these methods and other approaches.

You, me and your partner/spouse/lover. We'll unpack what's not going so well. Then, you'll learn and practice better ways of interacting. You'll walk away with new skills to think and act relationally.

I'm certified in Relational Life Therapy, aiming to meet couples where you're at, to understand & connect, & identify the patterns you’re stuck in to help guide you out of that pattern into a more functional one. We’ll work on this by relationally embodying “full respect living” in sessions. We’re aiming for living w/ integrity: what often evolves is a deep, fundamental characterological transformation: a change (for the better!) in who — & how — you think you can be (with yourself & others).

Identifying breakdowns in communication and discussing "non-negotiables" in relationships is critical. Working, as a couple, on rules for fair fighting can be helpful in managing conflict and improving communication. I have training specific to managing difficulties in relationships, and also creating a strong foundation for couples prior to marriage via pre-marital counseling.

Couples therapy helps us navigate the most complex thing on Earth - the human relationship. We all struggle in relationships from time to time. We fight, we bicker, we threaten, we cheat. Eventually, we need some help. By weaving together attachment theory, neuroscience, mindfulness, and the most effective couples therapy approaches, I help couples fall in love again.

One plus one equals three. Two individuals, plus one relationship.

I help couples get past their painful patterns and create the lasting love they deserve. I help people create Intimacy-Based Relationships rather than Fear-Based Relationships.

Primary focus of practice, hundreds of hours of experience, and years of effective work with wonderful clients! See rest of my profile for additional information or contact me for more info.

My approach to couple's counseling is an eclectic approach, utilizing CBT, DBT, positive psychology, Gottman, and feminist theory. With this approach, I focus on the couple's wants and needs within the space and adapt the styles of therapy to their specific issues.

I am trained in the Gottman Method and am able to help you identify when blaming, criticism, contempt or stonewalling is keeping you from effectively communicating. I'll teach you how to speak to each other in a way that is direct but empathetic and kind. I'll help you to relocate your lost friendship and intimacy and to bring the joy back. I want you to feel an ease with each other and leave the tension behind.

My approach to couples counseling is unique in that it starts with the individuals first. We will work together and also apart, with the first session all together, then the next 4-6 sessions are individual hours, so that I can know you as your own unique individual selves. Then we will find what you want in a partnership / relationship / Marriage. All that content will be brought to the table to help you both see each other with fresh eyes and build something that has what it takes to last.

For many of us, problems with our partners can be the most frustrating issues we have to face, leaving us feeling “crazy,” overwhelmed, and miserable. We start our relationships feeling hopeful, buoyant, and exhilarated, believing we have found our “soul mate”. All too often, this dream fades within years, and we do one of two things: we jump from one relationship to another, blaming problems on our partners; or we stay in a miserable union, hurting each other and/or stagnating. Symptoms of a re

Couples counseling is one of our specialty areas, as well as help for singles, help with breakups or divorce, and help navigating the dating world. We are relationship experts, and we absolutely love to help people find and restore love and connection. In couples counseling, we use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) as our main operating framework, and it is extremely powerful in repairing lost trust, love, & connection. We often catch our couples making out in the lobby! Call today.